We Don’t Compare Losses

February 13, 2022

The Sisters discuss how inappropriate it is for people to compare their losses to another person’s loss.  When grievers have unresolved grief they will put their pain on a new griever by saying “I know exactly how you feel.”  This is one of the most disrespectful things you can say to a new griever.  It’s time to normalize the concept that grief is unique and individual an no one will ever know exactly how you feel.  






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