We’ve been grieving all wrong. 

Let’s stop sugarcoating it. Let’s stop pretending. The number one reason?
Because we walk through life pretending grief will never touch us. 

We think grief is for other people.
Not for us. Not for our marriages, our families, our kids.
We believe if we just live right, do good, pray hard, and manifest joy—we’ll avoid heartbreak. 

But the truth is, none of us are exempt. 

I remember the exact moment my world collapsed.
I fell to my knees. I screamed for answers. I couldn’t believe it was happening to me.
Because I was a good person. Because I didn’t think this would be my story. 

But grief doesn’t care how good you are.
It doesn’t knock. It kicks the door down. 

And still, most of us go through life afraid to even say the word.
We don’t talk about death.
We don’t talk about the ache that comes with losing someone we love.
Instead, we post. We scroll. We filter.
We silence the pain. We shove it down.
We get back to work like nothing happened. 

But grief doesn’t disappear just because you’re pretending.
It waits. 

Until one day, your moment comes too. 

So let me say this as clear as I can: 

You didn’t do anything wrong.
Grief is not punishment.
Grief is the price of love.
And if you’re hurting—it means you loved deeply. That love mattered. 

You are not broken. You are grieving. 

The question is: are you ready to stop doing it wrong? 

Grieving isn’t about getting over it.
It’s about moving through it with truth, support, and tools. 

That’s what I teach at The Grief School.
Through my book, Grieve That Shit,
Through my signature program, Processing the Pain of Grief,
And through deep, transformative weekend intensives where we do the work together. 

Because healing doesn’t happen by accident.
It happens when we tell the truth about grief—and stop pretending. 

You don’t have to carry this alone.
Let’s do it differently this time.
Let’s get it right.