Overwhelm

Overwhelm

Do you have days where you feel so overwhelmed with sadness? Does it seem impossible for you to get through the simple stuff on some days? I remember when I was grieving, all I want to do is go to sleep. Life is going on around me, but somehow, I could not go along...

Grieving and the Holidays

Grieving and the Holidays

Let’s face it: The holidays are going to be a bigger challenge this year, with many of us out of work or coping with isolation and grief. Because everything is upside-down, make sure that you are ready because it is coming ready or not. In short, we will be making new...

You Must Choose to Feel It.

You Must Choose to Feel It.

I hear you all.   What do you mean I have no choice other than feeling this pain!  It feels as though someone has stabbed me in the heart with a knife. If I sit still for long enough, I can feel it turning.  The loss of a loved one can be excruciating.  With every...

When Is the Right Time to Get Help?

When Is the Right Time to Get Help?

Hello, friend. Grief is normal. Did you hear that? GRIEF IS NORMAL. How come no one ever told you that before?  We don't have an exact answer for you regarding that question, but we do know one thing for sure...no one wants to talk about sad feelings. People don't...

Why me?

Why me?

Why me? When we ask ourselves, "Why me?" we get terrible answers. We get self-pity. We get disempowered. We have decided to change that question to... Why was I chosen to experience this? See the difference? See the power in just changing that one question? No, it...

Words Matter

Words Matter

Words can cut like a knife. Words can also heal our heart. Words are so important to us as humans. We can act as uncaring strangers from time to time using words to force the broken-hearted to stay away.  As grievers, we cut ourselves off from human interaction, but...

I Want To Have Sex Again

I Want To Have Sex Again

  “My mother just died and all I want to do is have sex.  Is this normal?”  These were the first words I heard over the phone after hello. Is this a joke was the first thought that went thought my head?  I simply answered, “Yes, this is a completely normal...

Going Back

Going Back

Going Back We all know what that means: going back to school. This year, it will be a little different. Pandemic! Wear a mask! Don’t wear a mask! Wash your hands! Check your temperature! Don’t touch your friend! How do we clean our area? Teachers are scared. Parents...

The Grieving Experience

The Grieving Experience

The Grieving Experience Something happens to us when we experience a loss.  A loss of any kind.  We responded to the loss with various emotions.  Friends this experience is called grief.  A time of deep sorrow. This experience is inevitable no matter who we are.  If...

The Magic Black and White Photo

The Magic Black and White Photo

Yesterday, I was challenged to put up a black and white photo of myself on social media. I don’t know about you, but I have a love hate relationship with challenges. I did it. I searched for a cutest picture of myself and turned it black and white. I love black and...

For the Mother without her Child

For the Mother without her Child

  For the Mother without her Child This is the last Mother’s Day post Donovan wrote for to me and when it shows up in my FB memories It’s always bittersweet. I miss him so much! Each year that passes holds dreams I will never see him or his bother achieve.  I...

Hey Girl…Put Down That Phone

Hey Girl…Put Down That Phone

Put Your Phone Down – Feel the Feelings Here is what had happened to me when I was grieving. I would have a thought about Austin or remember a conversation that I had with him. Then, BAM! It would be followed by this intense pain in my heart. I would experience an...

Tragedy Happens.

Tragedy Happens.

Tragedy Happens. Something horrible happened and you’re not coping. cop.ing /’kopiNG/ to face and deal with responsibilities, problems, or difficulties, especially successfully or in a calm or adequate manner: After his breakdown he couldn't cope any longer. Coping...

Setting Healthy Grief Boundaries

Setting Healthy Grief Boundaries

After the death of a loved one, you may experience anxiety because…   You are trying to avoid unpleasant thoughts, memories and emotions.   Then add in all of the family and friends that show up with the perfect idea on   how you should handle your...

Triggers

Triggers

~ Triggers How many times have you heard this word? What is a trigger? Are they helpful? Can we use them for good? Are all triggers painful? Are grievers the only one effected by triggers? Some examples of common triggers are: the anniversary dates of losses or...

There Is Healing Power In The Hug

There Is Healing Power In The Hug

Today, I was listening to a radio program, in which a teacher from the school where the recent  shooting took place was being interviewed.  The reporter asked,   “How are your students so resilient?” “These are smart kids,” he said. “But honestly, I have never hugged...

What Are Feelings?

What Are Feelings?

This seems like a simple question. The truth is so many of us cannot answer it. Feelings my friends and emotions go together like peanut butter and jelly. It is the contrast of salty and sweet. It is the contrast of positive and negative feelings that makes all...

Grieving Mothers Raise Grieving Daughters

Grieving Mothers Raise Grieving Daughters

Did you know that we all have a grief story to tell? Everyone’s story has a uniqueness to it. Some tell the story of pain. Some tell the story of love and loss. While others tell the story of a past that never got to be.  The story of a lost childhood. Some of the...

He Died.  How Do I Post That?

He Died. How Do I Post That?

  The best thing ever invented.  The internet.  How it has changed all our lives.  I am a grandmother of three amazing grandchildren. My two youngest grandchildren live out of the state; how awesome it is to open Facebook and see their shining faces.  Their daily...

Is it possible to have a relationship with someone you have never met?

Is it possible to have a relationship with someone you have never met?

Is it possible to have a relationship with someone you have never met? Yes. What did you do today?  I spent the entire day thinking of the families that will be forever changed after the helicopter crash. I did not know any of them.  I have never even gone to a Laker...