The Tears May Never Come

The Tears May Never Come

As a Grief Specialist, I know that tears may or may not be a sign of grief. You may absolutely be crying non-stop. Keep in mind that grief is normal part of our human experience  and this sign of emotions pouring out is okay. What about the times when the tears do not...

And They Call Her Grief

And They Call Her Grief

    She is not your friend She will come in like a thief in the middle of the night Most days you will hate her so much You will do everything you can to avoid her There are days when you will think you need her Trust me I know Some days you will hold on to...

New Year… Same Broken Heart

New Year… Same Broken Heart

New Year New Me Or is it?  Today is December 30, 2019, this is the time when all of us are celebrating the joyous passing of another year. But not everyone feels this way. I remember what it was like for me when my loss occurred.  The thought of going into the new...

The Best Grandmother of Ever

The Best Grandmother of Ever

Three years ago my oldest daughter Lauren and I were in Kohl’s at Christmas time we came across An Elf On A Shelf, in the box complete with book and story $39.95. We both looked at each other a laughed aren’t we lucky we don’t have to that! Thinking she would never...

You Do Not Have To Grieve Alone

You Do Not Have To Grieve Alone

  I can’t say that I remember being told to grieve alone. I never really saw anyone in my family grieve. The first death that I ever experienced was an Aunt that died when I was 16 years old. What I saw my parents do was “stay busy”.  Keep involved with the...

Self-Care

Self-Care

We are putting the Self-Care Blog up this month because we need this so much right now during the holidays.  Thank you. What is self-care? Webster Definition: Self-care is any activity that we do deliberately, in order to take care of our mental, emotional, and...

The Grievers Guide to Surviving The Holidays ~ 25 Tips

The Grievers Guide to Surviving The Holidays ~ 25 Tips

The Griever's Guide to Surviving the Holidays ~ 25 Tips     By: Grief Specialist~ Erica Honore and Sharon Brubaker           Erica and Sharon are sisters who have studied out the science of grief for over 13 years.  As Grief...

Saugus Together ~ Forever Strong

Saugus Together ~ Forever Strong

      Tonight as  I search the web for words of wisdom to send all the kids of Santa Clarita Valley that went back to school today; our Saugus friends.    I need to tell them that it will be ok.  Encourage them to “ be strong”. Keep going.  But the...

~Grieving and Thanksgiving ~

~Grieving and Thanksgiving ~

  We love this time of year. This holiday has a very special meaning to Erica and I. Our father loved this start to the holiday season. In the weeks before Thanksgiving, our father, an amazing cook, would start to plan the menu with each one of his children. He...

9 Tips To Help You Create New Holiday Traditions While Grieving

9 Tips To Help You Create New Holiday Traditions While Grieving

Preparing for a holiday event without them…. The first thing we had to do was acknowledge that the holidays were coming. And they were coming fast! Austin died on the Father’s Day Weekend.. We truly ignored each other for Halloween. As much as I hate to admit it, I...

Grief In Santa Clarita

Grief In Santa Clarita

Today, as I sit here and watch the news coverage of the 2 killed, by a young boy, in my own hometown of Santa Clarita, my heart is breaking. The coverage is centered around how we as fellow neighbor’s, family and friends will be affected by such a tragedy. The...

Talking To Your Children About Pain and A Broken heart

Talking To Your Children About Pain and A Broken heart

Talking to Children about Loss and Grief Cheat-Sheet DO - Go first. As the adult, you are the leader.     DO - Tell the truth about how you feel. Telling the truth about your own grief and about how you feel will establish a tone of trust and make your child feel safe...

What Does Recovery Look Like?…It Looks Like Me!

What Does Recovery Look Like?…It Looks Like Me!

What Does Recovery Look Like? - Erica Recovery from grief looks different to different people. For some, recovery means not crying every day or not having to take medication to get through the day. For me, recovery means truly enjoying my life with the people I spend...

Living In The “New Normal”

Living In The “New Normal”

Living In the “New Normal” - Sharon I want you to consider that it’s important to remember that the pain you feel regarding a loss does not have to be the “New Normal” in your life. While working with grievers, I often hear them tell me how I must live in my “New...

Taking Care of Yourself While Helping Others

Taking Care of Yourself While Helping Others

Taking Care of Yourself While Helping Others - Erica If you’re in an industry that deals with helping people—grief worker, social worker, nurse, police officer, or mental health professional—nine times out of ten, you are prepared and willing to put everyone else’s...

Question:  Am I Still Grieving?

Question: Am I Still Grieving?

Sharon and Erica; Thank you so much for talking to me on the phone today.  I wanted to send you both a quick email and ask you a question.  My mother passed away three months ago, and I am just now finished taking care of all her business.  Selling her house and car...

Do You Grieve For The Loss of A Pet?

Do You Grieve For The Loss of A Pet?

Pet Loss The bond between a pet and owner is often stronger than one between people.  Pets love us unconditionally and without judgement.  They show true love and affection, and all they ask for is that love to be reciprocated.  No matter how many times you have to...

I Want To Date Again

I Want To Date Again

Is It Alright to Date? After the breakup of a romantic relationship or a divorce there comes a time when you feel as though you’re ready to get involved in another relationship.  However, the timing needs to be right because if you get involved too soon you run the...

Bullying and Grief

Bullying and Grief

Bullying and Grief   When you become a parent there are so many things that are outside of your control.  This can result in feelings of helplessness especially when you find out that your child is the victim of bullying.  Or the reverse happens, and you find out...

Processing the Pain from  Grief

Processing the Pain from Grief

Processing the Pain from Grief Most of us have never truly been taught how to talk about grief, which makes it so much more challenging when we experience a grief event in our lives.  Sharon and I have noticed that there are three options that a griever has when they...