Don’t Tell Me I’m Strong

March 12, 2022

This is not a compliment for a griever.  When a griever loses a loved one they are in survival mode.  They were not given the choice to prevent their loss from occurring, yet they still have to perform the activities of daily living.  In general, grievers are on auto-pilot when they experience a loss, when they are told how strong they are it is not because they want to be it’s because they have to function.


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