Neutral not helping or supporting either side in the conflict. That’s the adjective neutral, the noun, an impartial or unbiased person. Neutral can also be a color. What is getting to neutral in your grief? Erica and I often help grievers get to neutral. In the middle, not having an emotional reaction or emotional feeling one way or the other you’re just there. You’re just in a neutral state where prior to that state, you had a ton of emotions going on.