I Cannot Get Rid of their Stuff

July 2, 2021

I will never move his stuff, ever.

You don’t have to. There is no law that says you have to get rid of anything. This is a 100% personal decision that we each have to make for ourselves.

Oddly enough, most of our friends and family members will feel that the faster we get rid of their stuff, the faster we will heal from our pain. The truth is, there is no time limit on your personal grief. With or without their personal items, your grief will appear.

Our friends and family have the best of intentions; they are trying to fix the pain because they cannot stand to see us hurt.

But this is your grief. You get to say when you let go of personal items and what you keep. 

Tips for sorting out personal items:

  • In most cases, it is better to do your grief healing prior to cleaning out the personal items.
  • Give yourself some time before getting rid of material things. While in pain, we do not always think clearly and may get rid of personal items that we want to keep.
  • Know that you do not have to get rid of anything.

 

Related Articles

I am Still Grieving Even After the Self Care

"Welcome to our podcast for grievers. In today's episode, we will be discussing the idea that self care is important, but it is not the only thing that will help us move past the pain of grief. Many of us have been told that practicing self care can help us to cope...

3 Ways Bullying and Loss are Linked

3 Ways Bullying and Loss are Linked

Bullying is traumatic and affects millions of children and adults today. Discover the three ways that bullying and loss go hand in hand and how to heal from the damage. Grief isn't just for those who have suffered the death of a loved one. It’s a natural response to...

Grief or Relief? Processing the Loss of a Negative Relationship

Grief or Relief? Processing the Loss of a Negative Relationship

Even if the relationship was toxic or abusive, you can still grieve it. Relief, regret, and grief are an all-in-one package. Make space for your full healing experience with these 3 truths about grief recovery.  What does grief look like when the person you lost is...