I Remember but Everyone Wants to Forget

November 13, 2019

I Remember but Everyone Wants to Forget

When you experience a grieving event, it is not uncommon to want to dissect every aspect of what happened, how it made you feel and possibly assigning blame.  Typically, you have a supporting cast of characters in your life with whom you’ll have these conversations.

What happens when your support system gets tired of talking about your story?  One of the things we know to be true is that grievers need to share, and they need to be heard.  Part of the healing process is being able to share your truth.  But it becomes extremely difficult to do this when the people around you don’t want to hear about it anymore.

Unfortunately for us grievers, time moves on and so does everyone else.  This is why traditional support groups are very popular with grievers.  It’s a safe place to show up week after week and share your story with others who also have a story.  The problem with traditional support groups is that it’s very easy to get stuck in your story.

How can you share your story and your feelings without getting stuck?

You need to share your story, but you have to take action as well.

You need to share your story with someone who can help you figure out why you’re feeling the way that you are.  Someone who can help you take an inventory of your heart and review past hurts and how you reacted to them.

Who is this someone?

That someone is Erica and Sharon.  We are that safe place where you can share whatever it is you need.  We listen without judgement and with an open heart.  We help to educate you on all of the misinformation that is out there about grief.  You’re not going to go through stages.  You’re going to go through every emotion possible in a single day and sometimes in a single hour.  That is okay and it’s normal.  There’s nothing wrong with you, you’re not broken, and you don’t need to be fixed.  What you need is to be allowed to feel how you feel, to talk when you need to talk and to not be told that you need to get over this and to move on.   ~ Erica

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