December 17, 2020

Do you have days where you feel so overwhelmed with sadness?

Does it seem impossible for you to get through the simple stuff on some days?

I remember when I was grieving, all I want to do is go to sleep. Life is going on around me, but somehow, I could not go along with it. I kept yelling at everyone in my household. I had no patience. “You need what?” “By when?”

I remember thinking this about my family. Don’t they know that I am grieving? I don’t care about that paperwork. I don’t care if you need help with your project. I AM GRIEVING!

Does any of this sound like someone you know? Is it you?

Try any of these in order to processing the pain of grief:

  • You are human. Let yourself feel the pain. All of it, even the ugly bits. This means that you are allowed to excuse yourself from any situation and go to a safe space where you can let it out.
  •  If you are anything like us, it is very likely that your grief does not feel natural. The two of us used to go days without processing the pain and we know that this can lead to the pain building up inside.
  • You are not the only one that has ever felt this way. I promise you that you will not be the last. Additionally, showing everyone around you that grieving will help them with their grief also. Imagine that!
  • Remember we never told you that this would be easy. If not one of the most painful things you will do. It will surely make the top five.
  • The one thing that you can tell yourself is that you can do this. I am going to feel these feelings.

Things we know about grief:

  • Grief is normal. Grieving is natural (even though it may not feel that way). We have never been taught how to do it.
  • Grief is emotional.
  • You are allowed to process this pain.
  • You have to tell everyone around you what you want.
  • You also have to tell them what you don’t want.

You can do this. You know the right things.

We are holding your space.

Much love,

Sharon and Erica.

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