You Knew How to Grieve When You Came Here

You Knew How to Grieve When You Came Here

You didn’t forget how to grieve.
You were taught to stop.  You were born into this world knowing exactly what to do with pain. You cried when it hurt. You screamed when you were scared. You reached out when you needed comfort. There was no hesitation. No shame. No...
Lean Into the Shit: Why Avoiding Your Grief Is Making It Worse

Lean Into the Shit: Why Avoiding Your Grief Is Making It Worse

Let’s get one thing straight:
Grief is not polite.
It’s not pretty.
It’s not manageable.  Grief is raw, heavy, and disruptive.
It doesn’t care about your schedule.
It doesn’t respond to positive thinking.
And it will not wait quietly while you try to “stay...
Your Grief Story Is More Than Just the Day You Lost Them

Your Grief Story Is More Than Just the Day You Lost Them

Your grief story is not just about who you lost or how they died.
It’s about what you lost.  I didn’t just lose a person.
I lost my best friend.
I lost my protector.
I lost the one who understood me without words.
I lost the one person I could collapse into at the end...
The Day It All Fell Apart

The Day It All Fell Apart

There’s always a moment.  The moment you can never forget.
The one that splits your life into two parts: before and after.  For me, that moment was a phone call.
My daughter’s voice was shaking.
Then she said the words that dropped me to my knees:
“Mom, I lost...
We Got This All Wrong – The Truth About Grief


We Got This All Wrong – The Truth About Grief


We’ve been grieving all wrong.  Let’s stop sugarcoating it. Let’s stop pretending. The number one reason?
Because we walk through life pretending grief will never touch us.  We think grief is for other people.
Not for us. Not for our marriages, our families, our...
What Is That Grief Shit?

What Is That Grief Shit?

Let’s just say it like it is:
Grief is not just about death.
It’s not just about crying.
And it sure as hell isn’t just about being “sad.”  Grief is a full-body, soul-rattling experience that takes over your nervous system, your appetite, your sleep, your breath—your...